Hair Problems

So I was (I thought) 100% convinced of how I wanted to wear my hair for the wedding. You see, I'm all about looking like myself on my wedding day. I wanted to buy a dress that was "me," that was comfortable, and that I could see myself wearing on any other day (if it wasn't white and a wedding dress...). So when it came to hair, I wanted to follow the same principles. And I basically have one "favorite" way of wearing my hair, the same way I wore it in my engagement shoot.

Image via Niki Marie Photography / Photo by Niki Marie Photography

Yeah, I'm kinda boring, but basically curly and pinned half back. I have a lot of heavy hair, so having it hang in my face drives me crazy! My hair now is even longer than in this picture.

So easy enough, right? I looked up pictures and found tons of inspiration for long curly hair—ways to make it look dressy yet still myself.

Image via lover.ly / Photo by Lane Dittoe

Image via lover.ly / Photo by Tinywater Photography

I bought my dress (online, without trying it on, remember?). It came, fit perfectly, and I loved it! I had the dress and hairstyle I wanted—all good.

Image via J. CREW

Well...

The first time I tried on the dress my hair was up. It was the end of the day, I was tired, I pulled it on top of my head. I decided a few days later to style my hair and try on the dress to see what I would look like.

And I hated my hair down with it. Because my dress isn't strapless, my long hair covered the straps and just made it look... weird. Even though I wanted to channel Mrs. Castle or Mrs. Hawk, I'm not sure it's meant to be.

It's been about a month since then and I'm still not sure what to do. I need to try on my dress again and play around with my hair a little bit more. I'm not sure if having someone else do my hair would make any difference. Complicating the issue is that Mr. Lemur prefers when I wear my hair down—as I think a lot of guys do. The wedding is indoors, so heat shouldn't be a huge issue, but it's South Carolina... and guys it is always humid here.

What should I do? Any hair style suggestions? Down or up? Should I try to do my own hair or should I look into having someone do it for me? (It would have to be out of my own pocket, there's not room in the wedding budget.)